Give It All Up
Recently my mom made a comment to me about all the good things that have been happening to us lately. The way she phrased it was that “because” of the accident…or maybe I should say “as a result” of the accident, I started this blog as an outlet. Since then cool things like the Detroit trip have happened.
Lately we’ve had some good news come our way. Most of it stems from finding out we are receiving a settlement from the car accident, that up until 9 months ago we were sure wouldn’t happen. This will relieve a lot of financial worries for us and provide some security for our future.
As a result of the Detroit trip I will have a 2008 Saturn Outlook sitting in my driveway on Wednesday afternoon. It’s almost unfathomable that GM would just give us a brand new SUV to test-drive on our vacation next week and put it to the test, but I’m thankful.
I would never wish such an event (as my accident) on myself or anyone else, but honestly I’d give up the Detroit trip, test driving the Saturn, the lawsuit money - all of it:
- to wake up in the morning and dread stepping on the floor, because my ankle is so stiff
- to not be in pain every single day
- to not wish I could turn back time and do something different the day it happened
- to not be jealous that we don’t have another child and many of our friends do
- to not wonder what my life will be like in 10-20 years & whether I’ll be able to walk
- to understand why it happened to us in the first place
I would give it all back in a heartbeat, but I am enjoying having some good things happen to us. My mother has told me repeatedly over the past 3 years that “things happen for a reason.” And I truly believe they do. Let the good times roll…
My name is Emily. I’m 30 years old. I have often been told that I ask a lot of questions, but I think I have more to say than ask.
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first…i’m glad good things are happening for you, and turning around.
but, not to contradict your mother (!)…i’ve never really bought that whole “for a reason” line. i think it’s important to try to find the positive in life, certainly…and often, with time, it’s possible to find healing and good things even out of serious heartbreak or hard times. but it doesn’t necessarily follow that the bad things happened to make the good possible - it’s faulty logic. usually plied on us by those who want us to feel better, but still faulty.
all that to say i don’t know if you’ll ever get an answer about why the accident happened, really. but i’m sorry it did. and i hope things continue to get better.
Thanks Bon! I think my mom was trying to point out the good things that have happened. I see what you are saying about things happening for a reason…but from her perspective she quit her job right after my car accident to help us out and my cousin was diagnosed with cancer and died about 9 months later. Both of us being off work and around, we were able to spend A LOT of time with my cousin (her niece) that we otherwise would not have been able too. And help my aunt & uncle through a very difficult time.
Also in that time period my grandmother passed away. So she views all the events as connected. We again were able all spend time with her as well.
I think it’s about trying to find the good outcomes in the bad situations that life throws at us!
I know the feeling. But, I am glad you are here and I am glad that even though you have been through it, you are on the other side.
I don’t know where I borrowed it, but this quote’s been serving me as a reminder during tough times for years now. “The bad times we survive were put there so we’d appreciate the good times in years to come all the more”.
i believe that “things happen for a reason” too. however it still doesn’t calm the jealously that comes up at times…these are totally natural feelings.
way to go on the new car!
I agree that it is good to look for the good in life and definitely good can come from bad. Many beautiful things in my life have come out of sorrows or pain. but… sometimes bad stuff just happens. No rhyme or reason, it just does. I am sorry that you have had to suffer so. And glad that you have blessings in your life, and I totally understand how you would give them all up for the ability to be pain free. I have felt the same.