The Dreaded Question
I’m not sure how woman who are desperately trying to conceive handle all the pressure from the outside world. Even hearing my doctor say it out loud sent shivers down my spine yesterday.
Despite knowing our situation and how many surgeries I’ve endured, I constantly get questioned from people with that dreaded sentence:
“So when are you guys going to have another baby?”
I used to be polite and felt as if it was my responsibility to say things like, “Oh, I’m not sure.”
Now I’m more honest in responding. I figure if you’re going to be blunt and ask personal questions, then you can handle the truthful answer.
Thanks for all the well wishes, good thoughts and e-mails regarding my appointment. The news wasn’t terrible, but the river runs deep with issues. We’ve started with some blood work, a few upcoming tests and scheduled a few consults to get other opinions.
We’ve been pondering whether it is worth the risks to proceed with trying to have another child and in the back of my mind I wonder what fuels this desire. Right before the car accident we had just decided to have another baby. Ethan was turning 2 years old and it was a good point in our lives to add on to our family. But life got interrupted and since then I’ve felt robbed of that chance.
Please don’t get the wrong impression. I feel incredibly blessed having our son. He is amazing in more ways than I can even begin to describe. My heart is more than full with his love.
It’s human nature to always want more though.
Even if our wants aren’t met, our needs already have been.
I just went back and read your last post. You are amazing, girl! Twenty-some surgeries? I’m thinking of you as you navigate these hurdles and decisions.
I know you will choose what’s right for you and your family. I just know it.
I like the way you ended the post. You are indeed blessed.
I agree. I love how you ended the post. Lots of hugs to you. With whatever decision you guys make
I hope everything works out how you want. Hugs and lovely thoughts are being sent over the ocean. x
Great ending to your post. Good thoughts to you as you weigh the decision.
Thinking of you…I’m sure you’ll make the best decision possible for you and yours…
Emily, people are so stupid, some days it’s harder to be nice about it. I was angry just reading your post. Why don’t the mind their own business. Next time your asked that question (and it will happen) consider this response. Now why do you ask such a personal question? Have you ever considered my thoughts to be sensitive and private?
Thank you for what you choose to share with us…it makes us stronger and wiser..
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Good luck to you. Hope things go well for you.
Well said.
And we could never get the wrong impression by you expressing your desire to have another child. It’s okay to want that.
It would be tempting to shriek: NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS.
I know you are too polite for that. But still tempting, no?
Hugs. I was in a similar situation once and I always wanted to ask people about the size of their penis, or what bra size they wore, when they prodded into my personal life. I just never got the guts. Then I was getting so worked up that when people asked me about these ‘issues’, I would start to cry! Stupid, but they never asked again. Lol